Fit Together or Just One of Us?

How do I get my spouse or significant other to be fit with me? This may ruffle some feathers but I’m here for it and honestly, so are you.

Let’s talk about the serenity prayer. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. 

I am all for wisdom and you need it not just in marriage, but life. In the beginning of our marriage, my husband and I put on some pounds. I like to call it, “love fat.” We both noticed it but did small things like rub each other’s stomach or squeeze each other’s arms. Major eye roll. For me, losing the weight helped me not just look better but build my confidence. I think in today’s world, we think that losing weight is not body positivity when, in fact, it is. 

So back to the main question. You cannot do or say anything to change someone just like a person cannot do or say anything to change you. We discussed our values even before getting married and being fit was on that list. Now, there are things that cause excessive weight gain such as pregnancy, sickness, different medications and the such so I am not talking about that. (In your vows, one says in sickness and in health.) 

You come to my blogs for honesty so here it goes, I got lazy…yes, lazy and comfortable. We were comfortably two lovebirds, however, in the back of my mind, I remember what was on both of our lists. Mind you, I had given up my Personal Trainer title around this time.  I couldn’t ask him to do something that I wasn’t doing myself. That’s where the power lies, if you want someone to change, you change. Wait, what did she say?

Yes if you want someone to change, you change. Now, we both talked lovingly to each other about our values and it brought us both back to reality. Make sure to stay introspective in order not to get offended. Remember, we are always growing as people. 

In the end, I am grateful.